When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on- series polygamy- until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimension to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.
We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.
Love is the ultimate outlaw. It just won't adhere to any rules. The most any of us can do is to sign on as its accomplice. Instead of vowing to honor and obey, maybe we should swear to aid and abet. That would mean that security is out of the question. The words "make" and "stay" become inappropriate. My love for you has no strings attached. I love you for free.
Who knows how to make love stay?
-Tom Robbins.
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This remembers me of the story or may be a forwarded mail which was also regarding the search of a life partner. It goes this way......God gives a man a boon and shows a paddy feild and says "Walk across the paddy field and at every 50 steps you'll get a lady whom you can choose as life partner, with a condition that if you cross any lady once you cannot choose the same again.
The man goes on crossing several beautiful ladies just with an intention to find the most beautiful one. At the end he discovers that beauty of the lady is not the only criteria to make life beautiful. It needs something else, i.e. Love which both can show towards each other.
Thought that I will share.
Mahesh